Comments for Trying to Heal http://tryingtoheal.com Fri, 18 May 2012 08:51:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on Tugging Strings: Is It the End? by Martine http://tryingtoheal.com/2012/05/14/tugging-strings-is-it-the-end/#comment-33826 Martine Fri, 18 May 2012 08:51:53 +0000 http://tryingtoheal.com/?p=3391#comment-33826 Hi Melissa, I fund your blog by accident, quite some time ago, and I have been coming back ever since, just because you are the kind of brave person that battles her problems. You remind me of my little sister, who has been struggling with severe depressions and other issues for years, and also never gives up. But I do understand that constant criticism does not help at all. Perhaps a personal journal, including pictures of your work, just like on the blog, would be an idea for you. You still get to keep a record of your life, which you can look back on, but just on paper, just for you, without any negativism. I wish you all the very best. M. from Belgium. Hi Melissa,
I fund your blog by accident, quite some time ago, and I have been coming back ever since, just because you are the kind of brave person that battles her problems. You remind me of my little sister, who has been struggling with severe depressions and other issues for years, and also never gives up.
But I do understand that constant criticism does not help at all.
Perhaps a personal journal, including pictures of your work, just like on the blog, would be an idea for you. You still get to keep a record of your life, which you can look back on, but just on paper, just for you, without any negativism.
I wish you all the very best. M. from Belgium.

]]> Comment on Tugging Strings: Is It the End? by Adrienne http://tryingtoheal.com/2012/05/14/tugging-strings-is-it-the-end/#comment-33819 Adrienne Fri, 18 May 2012 01:50:40 +0000 http://tryingtoheal.com/?p=3391#comment-33819 I started reading your blog exactly a year ago when I decided to start recovery from my ED. Your posts are so relatable and make me feel like recovery is possible and that no matter how long it takes, it's worth sticking with it every day (especially as I'm going through a rough patch now). Your passion for your job and for life in general is fantastic and I've loved following your story. I am so happy for you that you've been able to meet a great guy. I hope that things with your job, family (and kitty!), and recovery only get better. Feel free to email me any time, I'm a bit shy about commenting but am always up for an email. Best of luck :) I started reading your blog exactly a year ago when I decided to start recovery from my ED. Your posts are so relatable and make me feel like recovery is possible and that no matter how long it takes, it’s worth sticking with it every day (especially as I’m going through a rough patch now). Your passion for your job and for life in general is fantastic and I’ve loved following your story. I am so happy for you that you’ve been able to meet a great guy. I hope that things with your job, family (and kitty!), and recovery only get better. Feel free to email me any time, I’m a bit shy about commenting but am always up for an email. Best of luck :)

]]> Comment on Tugging Strings: Is It the End? by Gina http://tryingtoheal.com/2012/05/14/tugging-strings-is-it-the-end/#comment-33801 Gina Wed, 16 May 2012 16:29:31 +0000 http://tryingtoheal.com/?p=3391#comment-33801 Hi Melissa, I have been reading your blog for over a year now. Yours was the first I found that really spoke to my fears and anxiety. I was also amazed that you to find that you are a wildlife biologist, because I am too, and I primarily work with birds also. I won't even get into defending your job (really, birds are stupid? that doesn't even make sense) but I do want to remind you to check the job boards, talk to land managers, read the papers to see that yes, your job is real. I hope you will give some thought to the "externals" in your life right now- you are living out of a hotel without access to some of your safety nets- it is normal to feel anxious and the %^&$%# of the internet won't help. But please, don't say that is the story of your life. They are NOT the story of your life. The story of your life is far more gentle and beautiful, compassionate and hopeful. The petty cruelty is the story of THEIR lives. How sad. Hi Melissa,
I have been reading your blog for over a year now. Yours was the first I found that really spoke to my fears and anxiety. I was also amazed that you to find that you are a wildlife biologist, because I am too, and I primarily work with birds also. I won’t even get into defending your job (really, birds are stupid? that doesn’t even make sense) but I do want to remind you to check the job boards, talk to land managers, read the papers to see that yes, your job is real.
I hope you will give some thought to the “externals” in your life right now- you are living out of a hotel without access to some of your safety nets- it is normal to feel anxious and the %^&$%# of the internet won’t help.
But please, don’t say that is the story of your life. They are NOT the story of your life. The story of your life is far more gentle and beautiful, compassionate and hopeful. The petty cruelty is the story of THEIR lives. How sad.

]]> Comment on Tugging Strings: Is It the End? by Kristine http://tryingtoheal.com/2012/05/14/tugging-strings-is-it-the-end/#comment-33800 Kristine Wed, 16 May 2012 14:06:09 +0000 http://tryingtoheal.com/?p=3391#comment-33800 I haven't commented much on your blog, but I do follow it and will miss it. I'm really sorry people sent you hurtful emails and I can understand why that has affected your desire to blog. I will never comprehend why some people feel it's OK to be intentionally hurtful. Anyway, I just wanted you to know that your hiatus (whether temporary or permanent) will not be unnoticed. I hope you find peace and happiness :-). I haven’t commented much on your blog, but I do follow it and will miss it. I’m really sorry people sent you hurtful emails and I can understand why that has affected your desire to blog. I will never comprehend why some people feel it’s OK to be intentionally hurtful. Anyway, I just wanted you to know that your hiatus (whether temporary or permanent) will not be unnoticed. I hope you find peace and happiness :-) .

]]> Comment on Tugging Strings: Is It the End? by Alli http://tryingtoheal.com/2012/05/14/tugging-strings-is-it-the-end/#comment-33796 Alli Wed, 16 May 2012 04:26:31 +0000 http://tryingtoheal.com/?p=3391#comment-33796 Melissa, I'm so sorry that you have been receiving unwarranted, insensitive, and just plaid STUPID e-mails from boring, ignorant people. You have one of the most interesting and unique jobs that I have ever heard and/or read about. Your passion for your job and birding/the environment in general shines through in your writing. I have very much enjoyed reading your blog over the past 2 or so years, although I am always a rare commenter. I wish you and Whit the best of luck together. You seem like a perfectly-matched, happy, and beautiful couple who both love and enjoy nature. Best of luck with whichever job you decide to take next - on whatever continent it may be! :-) As long as you are surrounded by nature, I am sure that you will live a fulfilling life. I do hope that you will return to your blog one day when you feel more supported and up to it. I enjoy reading about your struggles with ED, as I have many related issues of my own, but it's always refreshing to read little tidbits about Hawaii (I love Kauai, BTW - I went last summer!) and birding. Things I never would have thought about had I not kept up with your blog on Google Reader. Take care, Melissa :-) - Alli Melissa,

I’m so sorry that you have been receiving unwarranted, insensitive, and just plaid STUPID e-mails from boring, ignorant people. You have one of the most interesting and unique jobs that I have ever heard and/or read about. Your passion for your job and birding/the environment in general shines through in your writing. I have very much enjoyed reading your blog over the past 2 or so years, although I am always a rare commenter.

I wish you and Whit the best of luck together. You seem like a perfectly-matched, happy, and beautiful couple who both love and enjoy nature. Best of luck with whichever job you decide to take next – on whatever continent it may be! :-) As long as you are surrounded by nature, I am sure that you will live a fulfilling life.

I do hope that you will return to your blog one day when you feel more supported and up to it. I enjoy reading about your struggles with ED, as I have many related issues of my own, but it’s always refreshing to read little tidbits about Hawaii (I love Kauai, BTW – I went last summer!) and birding. Things I never would have thought about had I not kept up with your blog on Google Reader.

Take care, Melissa :-)

- Alli

]]> Comment on Tugging Strings: Is It the End? by Christina http://tryingtoheal.com/2012/05/14/tugging-strings-is-it-the-end/#comment-33795 Christina Wed, 16 May 2012 01:44:00 +0000 http://tryingtoheal.com/?p=3391#comment-33795 I don't know what it's like to continually blog about topics close to your heart and be shot down, but I'm sorry that happened to you. Your blog is personal to you, though people don't always get that. I hope that you'll do well, Melissa. I enjoyed reading about your job - it's unique and not one I hear about often. If you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to send me an email. I don’t know what it’s like to continually blog about topics close to your heart and be shot down, but I’m sorry that happened to you. Your blog is personal to you, though people don’t always get that.
I hope that you’ll do well, Melissa. I enjoyed reading about your job – it’s unique and not one I hear about often. If you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to send me an email.

]]> Comment on Tugging Strings: Is It the End? by Megan - NewlyWife http://tryingtoheal.com/2012/05/14/tugging-strings-is-it-the-end/#comment-33790 Megan - NewlyWife Tue, 15 May 2012 20:35:30 +0000 http://tryingtoheal.com/?p=3391#comment-33790 First, I don't like mean people. I loved your birding posts -- and thought it was awesome that your shared your love for birds / environment with us. I will miss seeing you around here, but I'm hoping we get together with Bobbi in real life soon. Keep your chin up. And keep doing what you love. And screw those haters! We love you! First, I don’t like mean people. I loved your birding posts — and thought it was awesome that your shared your love for birds / environment with us. I will miss seeing you around here, but I’m hoping we get together with Bobbi in real life soon.

Keep your chin up. And keep doing what you love. And screw those haters! We love you!

]]> Comment on Tugging Strings: Is It the End? by Jenna http://tryingtoheal.com/2012/05/14/tugging-strings-is-it-the-end/#comment-33789 Jenna Tue, 15 May 2012 19:44:32 +0000 http://tryingtoheal.com/?p=3391#comment-33789 I'll miss your blog, but do what you need to for you. If you come to the Seattle area, know you have a place to crash, or maybe we'll catch each other at home someday... We should have a reunion coming up soon-ish- yikes! I’ll miss your blog, but do what you need to for you. If you come to the Seattle area, know you have a place to crash, or maybe we’ll catch each other at home someday… We should have a reunion coming up soon-ish- yikes!

]]> Comment on Tugging Strings: Is It the End? by Kim http://tryingtoheal.com/2012/05/14/tugging-strings-is-it-the-end/#comment-33787 Kim Tue, 15 May 2012 15:26:27 +0000 http://tryingtoheal.com/?p=3391#comment-33787 I will certainly notice if you disappear! Anyone who says your job is "stupid" or "unimportant" needs to take a good, long look at themselves. I applaud you for being so open and honest on a blog... that takes a lot of guts, and it's something I couldn't do. And your job IS important - you know that - and so are YOU. I hope you stay, but you need to do what is best for you. If stepping away for awhile will make things better, then do that. Be good to yourself and surround yourself with supportive people. I don't know where you are right now, but I'm in No. Co. San Diego if you ever want to talk. xox I will certainly notice if you disappear!

Anyone who says your job is “stupid” or “unimportant” needs to take a good, long look at themselves. I applaud you for being so open and honest on a blog… that takes a lot of guts, and it’s something I couldn’t do. And your job IS important – you know that – and so are YOU.

I hope you stay, but you need to do what is best for you. If stepping away for awhile will make things better, then do that. Be good to yourself and surround yourself with supportive people. I don’t know where you are right now, but I’m in No. Co. San Diego if you ever want to talk.

xox

]]> Comment on Tugging Strings: Is It the End? by Carey http://tryingtoheal.com/2012/05/14/tugging-strings-is-it-the-end/#comment-33786 Carey Tue, 15 May 2012 15:13:40 +0000 http://tryingtoheal.com/?p=3391#comment-33786 I always enjoyed reading your blog, you kept it real and I appreciate that as a characteristic in a person, I will miss your voice but totally understand the need to step away, I did so myself. There are a lot of haters out there in this world unfortunately. Look for the beauty, be yourself and love yourself, don't worry about what other people think, especially the virtual ones out on the net, focus on the "real" people in your life, the people you can see and touch and talk with in person, your friends, family. The internet will always be around if you want it, do what you want to do, follow your heart and take care of yourself first and foremost. I always enjoyed reading your blog, you kept it real and I appreciate that as a characteristic in a person, I will miss your voice but totally understand the need to step away, I did so myself. There are a lot of haters out there in this world unfortunately. Look for the beauty, be yourself and love yourself, don’t worry about what other people think, especially the virtual ones out on the net, focus on the “real” people in your life, the people you can see and touch and talk with in person, your friends, family. The internet will always be around if you want it, do what you want to do, follow your heart and take care of yourself first and foremost.

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