Hotel Living

Things are about to get crazy around here!  Well actually, they already have.  Yeesh.  Work has gotten nuts…just before I’m about to leave, of course!

Anyways, I had one of my last appointments (one more left) with my counselor before I move and we were talking about my anxiety of moving away, living alone, and being away from all things familiar to me.  I explained how I was feeling a bit anxious about going through the whole “I’m new to town, know no one and feel lonely/depressed,” and believe me, it was no fun.  Last year when I had this problem I found an awesome remedy: adopting a wonderful and energetic cat to come home to everyday.  She is there at the door the second I come home from work and it always helps lift my spirits.

Sadly, for this new job I won’t be able to take Honey with me.  She will be staying with my brother like when I was in Hawaii and although I’ll visit her as often as I can, it’s not the same.  With her absence, we were trying to figure out what I could take with me that would help reduce that loneliness when the feelings do arrive.  I have already printed a ton of pictures of me and Whit, my family, beautiful scenery, etc. and have them ready to be in frames or collages, but I feel like it’s not enough.

So I’m trying to figure out what makes me feel like I’m home; something I can have on my nightstand and travel easily that will make me feel better when I’m feeling down.

What helps you feel at home when you’re away and traveling?  How do you stay connected to your loved ones and friends when you’re away for a long time?

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11 Responses to Hotel Living

  1. Nicole says:

    i moved 9300 miles away from my home in Canada to my new home in Madagascar. I’ve been here for two and a half years.
    Here are the things that helped me:
    – a cell phone. Talking to the people I love and missed after a hard day of work was so important. there were too many times where i called someone crying…but i always knew that i had someone there that would answer. i could never express my gratitude.
    - emails. I LOVE LOVE LOVE getting emails. I had either an 8 or a 9 hour time difference, so I would get emails during the night and come to work the next morning to an inbox of random emails. i never talked to my friends about it, but maybe they knew that i needed to just read random stuff going on.
    - facebook. i have a love/hate relationship with facebook… but following people’s status’ made me feel more connected and less isolated.
    - finding a new routine. once i had my own routine, i stuck to it. it made me feel more settled and less chaotic.

    i live in a compound & already sort-of knew a few people, so i tried to randomly hang around them from time to time. & i accepted all social invitations – even if i didn’t feel like it.

    if it’s 500 miles or 9000 miles – moving is a mega stressful event. i struggle with anxiety, so i tried to be nice to myself when i was over-anxious. i cried a lot and i let myself accept that was ok – i was not weak. and i also ventured out and just went out and tried new things.

    good luck!!

    • Melissa says:

      Nicole, Wow, what a move! I am definitely looking into all your suggestions and going to try my hardest not to let the anxiety get me too badly! There are certainly things to do and get out and find that are interesting!

  2. Biz says:

    The only time I went away from my family was when I was in college – but I still made it home every few months.

    Hang in there Mel – I like the idea of having pictures of Whit and your family around!

  3. Carey says:

    Skype, it really makes me feel connected to my loved ones when I’m away from them.

  4. Katie R says:

    In addition to the suggestions already offered, I suggest that you find a largeish huggable stuffed animal, and keep it handy. When I moved away, my Mom mailed me a small-dog size stuffed animal (Penelope), and when ever I feel lonely, I hug Penelope, and although it sounds somewhat silly, hugging her makes me feel better :)

    • Melissa says:

      Katie, that is an AWESOME IDEA!!! I’m definitely doing that, and finding a cat one that looks as similar to my kitty as possible!

  5. Oh my gosh, can I please second and THIRD the stuffed animal idea? I think finding a cat that looks like Honey would help immensely. And I say that because I proudly have stuffed animals that help keep me company every once in a while, too. :)

    I am so excited for you, but completely know and understand the anxiety of both a new job/opportunity and new surroundings. Know that you can email/text/call anytime you need to. That said, I’m so excited for you!

  6. I’m about to move in August and I feel the same way. Everyone’e suggestions are fabulous! And remember, you are not alone in this.. changes are hard, but it will get easier!

  7. TV and Skype. Pay the $7 bucks a month for a subscription to Hulu Plus, and when you’re lonely, watch episodes of friends all night long. It’s a welcome distraction that will also bring some smiles :)

  8. so sad honey can’t go with you! Can’t believe it’s already time for your move and long distance relationship! Praying for you!

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