So, lately I’ve gotten some questions from my readers and friends about how I met Whit…seeing as how I live in a small mountain town with a population of ~8,000 that is mostly inhabited by retirees and high school students ready to jump the gun and get out of this town…
Back in the day this would have been taboo. Parents would have gawked at the thoughts, grandparents would have stared at you in shock and friends would have asked, “Really? You’re kidding, right?”
Certain circumstances called for different measures. Seeing as how I live in such a tiny town with very limited numbers of people my age I knew it was going to be difficult of find someone, anyone really, to date. Add to that that I don’t work in an office environment where I can meet people or make coworker friends, many places to hang out and well, anything to help with dating in general…I took the pledge around my birthday last year:
I signed up for eHarmony.
This took a lot of time and consideration since well, this stuff ain’t cheap! But I got a deal with my purchase and continued on to create my profile and “meet” someone through the site. It is actually quite nice the way these things work, as you create a very very detailed profile of yourself that the site uses to match you up with people.
(Sample shot of my profile; there is much more to this that your matches can see themselves)
After that you get to pick out the people you want to ask questions of, get more details then have a free flowing communication with them. You can also archive people that you’re not interested and of course keep people on the side that you think might be compatible but aren’t sure about.
You get emails everyday of people that you’ve been matched with and then get to go and review their profile (like the one above) and decide what you think and if you want to start talking to them.
So, one day I got matched with Whit. We swapped questions, more details and started talking through eHarmony’s mail service, before eventually hating having to log in all the time and just email each other. It’s kinda funny too, because we always seemed to be online at the same time so our questions were practically answered immediately!
Believe me when I say, I NEVER thought I would meet someone ONLINE. To me it still seemed taboo when I first signed up and I kept it a secret from well, EVERYONE. I didn’t tell my family, friends or even my counselor! I wasn’t embarrassed that I met him that way…it just seemed, well, a tad bit odd.
It actually wasn’t until I went to the Foodbuzz Festival that I spilled the beans to my girlfriends (Meghann, Monica, and Bobbi) about signing up for the service and meeting him through there. If anything, they got a good kick out of reading my entire profile along with Whit’s and all the other guys I’d been matched up to. Quite the scandal, haha!
Anyhow, Whit and I made up some great stories about how we met and were actually super conniving about how we were going to mix the two together to tell any friends or family that might eventually meet each other. He had actually already told his mom, so I had some reservations on telling my parents. And believe me, it wasn’t any way I had planned it.
In the beginning the only person that knew I had signed up for eHarmony was my brother. He’s always been my dating guru, so I knew I could trust him to keep his mouth shut. That and I needed someone to call after meeting Whit for the first time to tell that I hadn’t been kidnapped or murdered by this someone I met online. Believe me, I was locked securely in my apartment (that’s after I met Whit at Starbucks for the first time and talked until they practically kicked us out!) when I told him how it went!
Anyhow, I was still working on ways that I was going to tell the rest of my family, including my parents about how I really met Whit. It wasn’t until almost 3 months later that I finally dropped the truth on them at my cousin’s wedding. Funny enough, we had been talking about it so it was on my mind, and when my Aunt from out of town said sarcastically, “So, how did you really meet him?” I chuckled and said something along the lines, “Well, it’s a funny story really, but I met him on eHarmony.”
Let’s just say that I was cowered away from my Dad sitting next to me and stared right at my mom two seats away, who’s jaw about dropped to the floor (don’t try and deny it Mom, you know you did). Being Daddy’s little girl, I figured I would get the greatest reaction from him, but he kinda shrugged and said, “Times are different and as long as your smart and safe about it, more power to you!” My mom on the other hand sat there in silence while my other brother was totally surprised and excited all at the same time. Mom finally came around, but was surprised to say the least!
Lets just say I made my cousin’s wedding a little more memorable than it already was. Heh.
So there you have it and that as many people question the antic, there is nothing wrong with meeting your significant other online. I actually know quite a few people who have met their boyfriends, fiancés and husbands on there!
So dish it out…How did you meet your significant other? Do you still think something other than super duper great thoughts about meeting people online? I want to hear all your dating stories!!!