2nd Puberty

Hey all…wow what a day.  I was excited to get out in the field because it was HIKING time but man was it cold and windy!  And those hills kicked my booty!  I don’t have any pictures from the hike, but I’ll certainly have some later!  It’s too pretty not to take photos of!

Anyhow, I started the day off with a cereal mess, as I’m trying to use up my cereals so I can make my own granola!  Yay!  I’m searching for a good PB or Cinnamon Granola to try…suggestions?  Anyhow, I combined some heart to heart, go lean crunch, pb, an apple and blueberries.  Was great to hold me over.

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Until I felt no where near satisfied (danged cereal) so I snacked on one of my banana chocolate chip walnut muffins.  So tasty.

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Then I headed out to the field to get a survey done and then start hiking! It didn’t seem like that much while we were out there, but when I got home and looked at my tracks we hiked up and over mountains for a total of 6 miles!  Of course I figured that out after I went for a 4 mile run at the new gym. Yeesh.

Anyhow, we were gone for so long and through lunch that I didn’t even realize what time it was before I had lunch at almost 3pm!  I can’t believe I lasted that long, but I think the cold totally took away my appetite. I just had a pb and j banana wrap like yesterday, so nothing exciting.

I got home, raced over to the new gym I signed up for (which I’m sorely disappointed over, even though it has group classes, I hate that I have no tv…really?! Come on now!) and then got home to shower and ready for dinner with Whit!

I raved about those TJ’s Meatless Meatballs and Whit was all over trying them for dinner. I was going to have them for a third night in a row, but remembered I had some chickpeas that needed to be used asap, so I mixed them with some marinara in a Honey Whole Wheat TJ’s Hot Dog Bun and topped with green onions.  Great dinner!  I reminded me of sloppy joes!  Woohoo!  I made Whit’s two subs with sharp cheddar cheese, 4 balls in each, salsa and green onions.  He loved it!

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I then realized how hungry I truly was after all that activity today and ate another Banana Walnut Muffin.  Too good to pass up…along with a handful of dark chocolate covered cranberries.  Tasty!

[[Side Notes: Second Puberty?

Ok, crazy concept right?  Seriously, I think someone needs to do a study on this!  Let me explain.

The past year, since I turned 25 and just before, has provided my body with lots of…change.  And not the kind I like, AT ALL.  My favorite jeans no longer fit.  My shirts are getting tight.  I am uncomfortable in everything and disappointed to the max.  I have been telling myself that I’m not exercising enough, eating too much, along with so many other things wrong, but in reality, I don’t necessarily think I am.

I have talked with several friends about this and have come to a conclusion: Women go through a second puberty in their mid to late twenties.  I’ve concluded that our bodies are getting ready to have babies, or that’s what I’m telling myself…instead that I’ve done something wrong.

The concept has been one I had no realized until I saw that well, no wonder none of my clothes fit because I’ve been shopping at the wrong places for this body type.  With my body changing the way it is, I need to fit it properly with clothes that are well, not made to fit teenage girls.

So goodbye American Eagle. Goodbye Hollister.  Goodbye Aeropostale.   And goodbye Abercrombie.  It’s time to move towards places like Banana Republic, the Gap, The Loft, and others that I have yet to find and seek out…(suggestions?)

I was so discouraged last week.  I went to the mall last weekend and must have tried on at least 20 pairs of pants to have absolutely none of them fit.  All sizes I had never tried before.  Maybe this weekend though, with my changing body and store choices, I’ll be able to find something that fits my newly developing body.

Hard to accept.  Hard to anticipate.  Hard to acknowledge

Are you in your 20’s or 30’s?  Do you think this “2nd puberty” is the case?  Or am I just tripping out and making up excuses? ]]

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39 Responses to 2nd Puberty

  1. Megan D says:

    Your breakfast looks so yummy although I'm the same way, cereal never fills me up!! And 6 miles of hiking sounds awesome (yet exhausting). I'm 21 so I'm not sure about "2nd puberty" yet but I can definitely see how it would be kinda scary/uncomfortable. If you think about it though it's a good thing that we are capable of having cute little babies! I know that's hard to remember when jeans don't fit though but you aren't alone :)

  2. mynaturallife says:

    Yes, honey. It happens. You are not a teenager, so don't feel like you need to wear Junior clothing. Junior clothing is always sized smaller than actual women's clothes, and it's for girls.

    I am 31 and am in good shape, but have hips and butt to rival Kim Kardashian. And guess what? My husband LOVES it. So do I.

    I hope and pray you can learn to accept yourself and see the beauty everyone else sees – even people you don't know in real life.

  3. Just a Girl says:

    I've followed your blog for a while and really enjoy it, but I have been slow on the whole "leave a comment" concept. Your baby preparation theory of the "2nd puberty" totally makes sense. I can definitely see this coming as well. Kind of similar to PMS type things, just on going…boo :( Learners/ NY&Co is a good place to buy pants if you're still looking. It's the only place I can find jeans that fit! And your chickpea sub looks amazing!

  4. Pearl says:

    Hey Melissa, I read all the time but rarely comment. Truth is that women's bodies continue to grow and change through the mid- twenties. What you're experiencing is totally normal! You really inspire me. Thanks :)

  5. Abby says:

    You know, I never really thought about it but yeah, in the past couple years I've been finding more clothes that actually fit at places like Gap and J.Crew (love them, highly recommended) and less so at more junior-esque stores. I would have just chucked it up to gaining some much needed weight but I think it's probably a combo of that and my body's overall shape changing in my mid-20s.

  6. Katy says:

    I find it the same for me when it comes to pants. Some labels of jeans I cannot fit – especially Wrangler jeans. They fit me nicely yes. But the style of their waist gives me a crazy muffin top even though I don't have one! It's not cool. I no longer care about the brand anymore. I care about feeling comfortable and confident in my clothes :)

    Oh, and I am currently going through "second puberty" but not quite like you are. I lost my cycle so I'm think I'm about to get it back because i have been CRAAAZY emotional. WOAH ok maybe that was TMI for a comment on your blog. My bad :P


  7. Mica says:

    You know I'm sympathetic about the quest for jeans that fit.

    I feel like 25 is definitely an appropriate time to move away from teenage-cut clothing. I mean, now you have hips and a stylish body to show off! Plus, your mom doesn't have to drive you in a mini-van to do your shopping.

  8. Jessica Joy Daly says:

    Melissa dear, I seriously love your blog. I read every day, and have commented several times. You inspire me because I know EXACTLY what you are talking about when you explain your feelings. I think it is true. I am finally in recovery from Anorexia, and although I am the same weight as I was back when I was 18 before this all started, my body IS different. I am 25 now, and I seriously think my body wants to be able to bear children, so I naturally look more like a woman, not a child. It's hard to get used to, but honestly, I feel a bit more confident struttin around my stuff, and to be honest, the husband loves me as a woman!

  9. Liz says:

    Oh my gosh, second puberty. I'm in it and I didn't even know it. Not cool! Mother nature is clearly the overbearing type of mother. Why does she get to decide when it's time for us to start having kids?! Haha. Great post!

  10. mymarblerye says:

    Hey love!

    I think that our bodies just CHANGE with age…and with exercise. I weigh more than I did in high school but my jeans actually fit BETTER in some areas. Working out plus hormones=constantly changing sizes!

  11. Megan (The Runner's Kitchen) says:

    I remember making the switch from teen-centric stores (AE, Abercrombie) to Banana Republic/Gap, etc. I definitely think our bodies change and become more "womanly" as we enter our mid-20's. I like your term – 2nd puberty!! Does that explain the breakouts on my face, hehe?

  12. Rosie says:

    I read your blog and haven't commented before, but felt very moved to do so on this one. This definitely happened to me. It was a little bit earlier (around 20 – probs because I went through my 1st puberty a few years earlier too!) I just noticed the ratio between waist and hips becoming a bit more dramatic, and hips and chest filling out a bit more.

    I'm happy about this change – it's a good thing. I don't equate it with "getting fat" or anything – just becoming more womanly.

    This happens to men too. Compare a typical full grown man to a typical adolescent boy. The boy is skinnier and the man is more solid with broader shoulders. We don't expect (nor do we want, I don't think…) men to stay at the adolescent stage of development, so why would we (or the men/women/whoever attracted to us) expect or want to stay at a premature stage ourselves?

    Embrace it – and have fun looking for new clothes. You might be surprised at how good they look/make you feel!

  13. alysa says:

    It could be a lot of different things…sizing has changed in the last few years (I worked in a clothing store for a long time and trust me, the sizes went up and down and up and down), and then there's the simple fact that you're a woman! You don't need to be straight up and down the way that stores like Abercrombie and Hollister want us to be. I could never shop at those stores even when I was my skinniest. Rock your curves and love them for what they are: awesome!

  14. proudpatriot07 says:

    I'm 25, and I haven't experienced that yet, but it's super scary to me. A lot of my friends tell me that they can't wear clothes from certain stores, etc, all of that… but then those same friends eat a lot of junk and don't work out either.

    As for the gym- I don't blame you- gotta have the TV when running on the treadmill or something. Group classes are nice but it sucks if you're bored when you're running (because honestly, running is usually a better workout than group classes at a gym, IMHO).


  15. Natalie says:

    just an fyi–your pictures don't show up when i read through google reader anymore :( not sure if its bc i'm at work or what.

    anyways, here's a recipe for granola–not pb or cinnamon but my FAVORITE ever. it has lots of nuts in it and you only need a little bit to be satisfied! it's seriously the best granola i've ever had, ever! http://www.thesweetslife.com/2010/02/best-ever-homemade-granola.html

    happy friday :)

  16. Lauren @ Spiced Plate says:

    I'm 27, and think I did have a second puberty, which coincided with a month of antibiotics and becoming gluten intollerant. I didn't feel pretty, but my husband loved the new curves I had.

    After going off gluten and cleansing my system from the wrath of antibiotics, my weight evened out a bit. My body is still different — juniors clothes don't look right on me anymore — but I love it and accept it. Curves are lovely!

  17. Carolyn says:

    Oh, yeah, I feel your pain. I'm thirty and it's been a long time since I shopped in any of the stores you mentioned. They just are made for women, but girls.

    My favorite places now are The Loft, Banana Republic, and NY & Co.

  18. Cindy says:

    Hey Melissa. Thank you so much for addressing this, and for being so honest on your blog.

    I think you are correct about "2nd puberty". I learned in physiology that our organs are still developing into our early twenties, so it makes sense that the rest of our bodies will follow suit in the next few years. I notice that I too am starting to change. Not anything big, but my shape is becoming more "womanly". I'll be honest, at this point it is difficult to deal with, but I know that, like with the first puberty, I just need to adjust and get used to how my body changes with time. Our bodies are meant to change and develop at different stages of our lives. As long as we give them proper fuel and some enjoyable movement, that change will happen as it is supposed to. So, rock your bod and love it :)

  19. the actor's diet says:

    i don't know about second puberty since so much of my late twenties was about my eating disorders. but now that i'm in my mid-30's i feel like i'm finally at home.

  20. Tori says:

    I'm only 20, but I do think there will come a point where I'll have to let go of not having the same body I had when I was young. I mean it's just scientific fact that women don't keep their figure as they get older. (unless they're rich and have lots of money to throw away, of course!)

  21. The Hungry Runner Girl says:

    I COULD NOT AGREE MORE!!! Seriously, I feel like my body is changing all over again and the acne is out of control. Boo. I want to copy you and stop shopping at all of those teeny bopper places.
    3 PM….wow, I would have fainted. Your breakfast looks amazing! Have an amazing weekend!t

  22. Liz @ FitLizzy.com says:

    THANK YOU for writing this post! I definitely believe that women go through a second puberty! I'm 25 and it is now incredibly difficult to keep lean when all my body wants to do is retain water and grow boobs! As soon as you hit that mid-twenties mark… BAM It's psychological too. Because babies start to look delicious :) Regardless, it is important to realize there are two sides to a woman – the athlete and the live-giver, and if you treat your body well you can absolutely be both :)

  23. ThE MidLiFe CrUiSeR says:

    I read your blog all the time, but have never left a comment. I love your honesty and appreciate how you put yourself out there & help others in the process.

    I had to leave a comment after reading your post today. I think your theory is brilliant and right on the money. I'm 37 and found the same thing you described happened to me in my mid 20s. I'm also experiencing it again in my mid 30s. It has to do with hormones, I'm sure.

    The key is to embrace our bodies for the strong, beautiful vehicles they are. And try to remember that they are just houses meant to shelter our souls. And though it's normal to admire houses from the outside, we should put MUCH more value & love on the people who live within.

    Thanks again for a powerful post.


  24. Andrea of Care to Eat says:

    I definitely believe in a "2nd puberty!" In my late 20s, the bottom half of my body (mostly butt & thighs) changed and I had to figure out a new wardrobe and sizing. It was annoying, but it's all natural and good!

  25. Christine (The Raw Project) says:

    Great eats, the muffin looks wonderful! Just wow on running 4 miles, then hiking 6! There is something to second puberty I'm sure, I noticed changes in my body when I started running a lot and my jeans are tighter in the thigh and butt area. So most Old Navy pants are too tight in the rear while Gap and Loft stuff fits fine.

  26. Biz says:

    I can't believe you ran for 4 miles AFTER you hiked for 6! I can't wait for our weather to get better – I have 450 acres of trails a mere 1 mile from my house – I used to walk them before work and its so pretty to watch the sun come up.

    I am always jealous of all your outdoor time while I am stuck in an office looking at the clouds through my window. :(

    Have a wonderful weekend! :D

  27. leftcoastcontessa.com says:

    I haven't hit my second puberty yet, but I switched out of "teen" stores a while ago. Now I love Ann Taylor Loft (great sale items!) and J Crew. Lots and lots of J Crew.

  28. eliz@thesweetlife says:

    This is very interesting–first I hear about the concept but from my experience, I totally get it!

  29. falafelwaffle says:

    You breakfast looks yummy. I genuinely sometimes think that I'm the only one in the world that cereal fully satisfies. Every blogger always says it doesn't hold them over. Granted, if I have it with milk rather than yogurt, I wouldn't be satisfied either.
    I'm just 20 and the idea of a second puberty scares me. I had my first puberty extremely early, and I HATED it. :(

    Hope you have a great weekend :) xo

  30. Anonymous says:

    hi melissa! i just found your blog through "thickdumplingskin" and love it. :) i just read this and i'm turning 30 this year. I definitely do agree with most of the comments here. I am about 20 pds thinner than i was in high-school, and went back when i was 25-27 to try on my uniform and it fit SO oddly. definitely changes in my hips and thighs. i expected the skirt to fall off me, but it was loose and tight in all the weird places. i didn't really think too much of it, but around the same age i stopped shopping at hollister, a&f, AE, etc. the stores i tend to like are ann taylor loft, old navy, gap, jcrew, BR, zara, h&m, forever 21 (some of their stuff is awesome, some not so much.), nordstroms brands, macys, you'll figure it out! shoppings one of my favorite pastimes…:)

  31. Krista says:

    I had Sarah when I was 25, Noah when I was 27 so I didn't really experience a 2nd puberty. BUT, I completely understand when you say that some (previously) fav stores need to be left behind. I remember feeling really weird about that realization! And now Sarah is into the stores I used to like which is a tad depressing! HAHA!

  32. Amanda (Two Boos Who Eat) says:

    Yes, I feel like I went through a second puberty too. I was sad when I realized I could no longer shop at some of my favorite stores. Things just started fitting differently. This happened for me when I was 21 though. Bah. Not going to lie though, now I love shopping at stores like J.Crew and Anthro!

  33. Anonymous says:

    Hiya:) I have been reading your blog for awhile, and I have to agree. Second Puberty does exist. I'm going through the same thing and I'm probably the healthiest I've ever been! My Mom says she went through the same thing, but she calls it "redistributing." I'm 26 and my old jeans would still fit around the waist… if I could get them over my hips! I'm embracing my new womanly shape!

  34. CH says:

    Oh goodness, I'm 21 so I guess this second puberty thing is going to happen soon. Although to be honest, I kind of think I have had my second puberty in the last few years; I fit better into women's clothing than teenager clothing already. So hopefully I don't have to deal with a changing body shape again; it's not that I think there is anything wrong with different shapes, it's just that I've spent so long adjusting to this one that I don't wanna have to do it again, lol!

  35. Kara says:

    I had an A cup/B cup in high school and college and over one summer in grad school, it just blossomed in to a full C cup. It was so strange that I asked my doc and she confirmed that hormones can surge in the 20s causing changes (2nd puberty)

    Isn't being a girl fun?

  36. Anonymous says:

    It happened to me and all my friends (I'm 30). I used to only do cardio but found that strength training really helps keep me toned now. Pants that fit me best tend to cost more than the teeny bopper brands, apparently now that we are "grown" we have more money for clothes. I have more luck at Nordstroms and NOT in the juniors dept.
    If you can find an Express, I used to love their "editor" style pants and jeans. I don't live near one any more, so I am not sure this still exists.

  37. Rachel says:

    Oh girl, you're right about second puberty. When I turned 29 I put on 5 lbs, but not in my waist (where I usually gain.) Instead, it went to my hips and butt. My mom called it baby weight (as in, the kind that will sustain a pregnancy.)

  38. Rose says:

    I can relate! My hips just exploded horizontally in my early 20s, suddenly none of my pants fit! For months they seemed to keep being strange, even now I still really don't like feeling anything tight around my hips, so sweats and leggings are my new best friend. I also found that more high-cut jeans are great for me.

    I thought this was just me – glad this is a real "thing" and not in my head! :)

  39. Anonymous says:

    Actually yeah, I'm 24 and This past year is the first time I've been able to achieve vaginal orgasm (as opposed to clitoral orgasm) and it wasn't a change in methodology or anything, I was just ABLE to suddenly for no apparent reason. My breasts have been swelling, even lactating sometimes and I've seen a doctor and I'm not pregnant or anything, they say it's hormonal. I feel like I've gotten slightly taller, which is weird. It's really crazy, I'm glad this happens to other women.

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